The Secret to Adulting Everyone's Been Hiding
- Tim Thürnau
- Jul 12, 2024
- 3 min read
Hello friend,
when we’re young, it’s easy to look at the adults around us—our parents, teachers, even that super-serious librarian—and assume they’ve got it all figured out. They seem to navigate life with a confidence and certainty that we can only dream of. Surely, they know all the secrets, right?
Fast forward a few years, and we start to notice something. Our parents, those same pillars of wisdom, sometimes don’t have a clue what’s going on. They get flustered, make mistakes, and even rely on the same strategy that we thought was our little secret - “winging it”.
Given that you read this, I’m going to guess you fall into this category too, so ..
The Great Illusion
Here’s the truth: Everyone is winging it. Yep, even your parents. The people you looked up to and thought had all the answers? They’re just like you, trying to make sense of the world, one day at a time. They rely on past experiences, beliefs, and a bit of trial and error to get through life.
Life’s Messy, and That’s Okay
Life isn’t perfect. It’s messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright difficult. At some point, we all face struggles—whether it's a career setback, a personal loss, or just one of those days when nothing seems to go right. But here’s the kicker: It’s all part of the journey.
Those tough times? They make the great moments even sweeter. The setbacks and the suffering teach us resilience, compassion, and the value of perseverance. They make us appreciate the peaceful, fulfilling times even more.
Embrace It
So, what’s the takeaway here? If everyone’s winging it, we might as well get good at it! Embrace the uncertainty and use it as a chance to learn and grow. Every experience, good or bad, is an opportunity to get better at this whole life thing.
How to Wing It
Next time you find yourself facing a challenge, instead of feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself that everyone is figuring it out as they go. Take a deep breath, trust your instincts, and tackle the issue one step at a time.
Next time you find yourself winging it, remember you’re in good company. We’re all just trying to make it through, one awkward, uncertain step at a time. And that’s okay. Life’s not about having all the answers; it’s about the adventure of figuring things out along the way.
Final Thoughts
Life is messy and imperfect, but it’s also beautiful and rewarding. Don’t let the fear of not having it all figured out hold you back. Wing it with confidence, learn from your experiences, and enjoy the ride. After all, we’re all in this together, just winging it.
Bridging Worlds
If you want to see me wing it, I do a podcast with cool people. You should subscribe on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.
Exciting News! The trailer episode is now live, giving you a sneak peek into what's coming up on the show. And don’t miss the first full episode dropping this Friday, where I sit down with the incredible Jakob Heider to talk about Overcoming hurdles, Believing in the principle of “learning through failure,” and what it truly takes to survive and grow in a fast-paced world. Trust me, you won’t want to miss it!
Keep winging it, and I’ll see you in the next one.
Big love,
Tim
